"For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds; and the to the one who knocks, the door will be opened"
It isn't always that easy though...I am not sure that we allow it to be that easy...seek-what are we seeking? Do we have enough faith to know He will answer and provide us with the abundance we desire...What door will you faithfully knock on today?
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Talk about responsive vs. reactive...Which one are You?
Last night I looked out the window and saw the sky turn black as a storm was approaching....the wind picked up and the leaves on the trees frantically rustled as the chimes started to alert me it was time to go in. This morning I woke up expecting to see everything soaked, but instead saw a glorious sky of flaming orange, subtle hues of purple and blue, and gentle white clouds. It is amazing how beautiful something can look when only hours before it looked so ominous! Much like our lives, we must truely believe that all will work out for the better and that God's loving Will will prevail in our insecurities, doubts, fears, and confusion. Only in Him can we make sense of something frightening turning into beautiful grace! May Peace and Joy be Yours!
Train Your Brain, To Live Your Ideal WeekIn order to train your brain how to live out your ideal week, a good place to begin is to tell yourself the truth.
John (not his real name) hired me as his coach during the time he had lost his job and was looking for a new one.
I noticed that John would come to each session saying some form of this statement: “I’m never going to find a job.”
Even when I’d use normal coaching techniques like powerful questions or direct communication in response, John couldn’t seem to move away from this mindset.
So, by the third or fourth session, I knew it was time to try something different.
Excerpt from coaching session:
Coach: May I make an observation?
Coach: You’ve come to every coaching session saying you’re never going to find a job.
John: Well, it’s true.
Coach: May I take off my coaching hat, for a moment, and share what I know?
John: Please do. I need help.
Coach: You’re probably right. You’re probably never going to find a job.
John: What? You mean you also think I’m never going to find a job? I hired you to help me.
Coach: No, it’s not what I believe. I do believe you can find a job. But if you keep telling yourself “I’m not going to find a job” I’m concerned you may not. As long as you keep telling yourself that, it’s true. You’re right because our brains begin to believe what we tell them. Every time you say that to yourself, you’re basically reinforcing “the truth.”
John: Okay, well then what should I do? Tell myself the lie that I will find a job even though it’s clear I’m not getting offers?
Coach: No, that’s not what I’m suggesting. I’m going to put my coaching hat back on now. John, what is true in your situation?
John: With so many jobs out there, it is possible I’ll find a job.
Coach: What might happen if you got up every morning and told yourself exactly that?
John: I don’t know but I’d like to try it.
Coach: Sounds like you have a solid action step.
End of coaching excerpt
As John completed his action step each day, he became encouraged to revisit the materials he had found and completed around creating your ideal week.
John’s ideal week contained specific goals related to finding a job, but he realized he had not been taking many steps toward his goals because he’d become so convinced he would never find a job.
But then things changed.
Within three months, as he worked toward living out his ideal week, telling himself that with so many jobs out there it was possible he’d find a job…
John did find a job.
How can you train your brain to live your ideal week?What’s one goal that seems unattainable?
How can you tell yourself truth and work toward creating and living out your ideal week?
It’s All in Your Head: Moving from a Fixed Mindset to a Growth MindsetDo your clients struggle with a fixed mindset? As I have been pressing forward as a life coach, learning about a fixed vs. growth mindset, especially through the research of Carol Dwek, has made a big difference in my own personal approach. I believe her insights will help you professionally and personally.
What is a fixed mindset? It’s the belief that if we don’t have the smarts, gifts, or talents to do something, we give up trying. What is the opposite of a fixed mindset? It is a growth mindset that says persist in the face of setbacks or challenges, because effort and perseverance pay off. The brain grows when we persist, persevere, and use failures as growth opportunities.
How does the brain work for you to grow?The brain actually acts like a muscle. The more activity you do, the more neuron connections you make, and the brain becomes more and more complex. What you do in life physically changes the way your brain looks. It is very plastic. According to scientist, John Medina in Brain Rules, you can wire and rewire your brain, based on the simple activity and focus you choose to do – musician, professional sport, college professor.
How do you move into this growth mindset?Pursing your passions, like coaching, will help you move in this direction. How is coaching part of your God-given purpose? The growth mindset helps you believe the effort you put forth today will move you forward tomorrow. The growth mindset is compatible to the coaching framework as well. The growth mindset says you have all you need to move forward. That growth minds builds your emotional resiliency as well.
Conversely, a fixed mindset will hold you back. It says, “I don’t have what it takes to get to where I want to go. “It is much easier to give up with a fixed mindset.
Growth takes time, effort, and a lot of hard work. For example, Mozart was not an overnight sensation. He labored for more than ten years before he produced the work that we admire today. What are the ways that you and your clients grow best?
For example, I am a kinesthetic learner. For me to focus on what I am learning, I need to type notes, underline phrases in a book, or physically interact with the materials I am learning. I also need time to practice and give myself grace to learn from my mistakes.
To grow, what messages are you sending to yourself?To move forward in a growth mindset, you must pay attention to what you are telling yourself daily. Listen to these messages. Are they growth-oriented or fixed? For example, instead of focusing on the mistake you made, reframe it. What can you learn from the incident? What challenge is in front of you? Now what happens when you think of the incident? How do you feel when you reframe it in a growth mindset?
Think of reframing each time you notice those fixed messages coming into your head. What happens to your body, your mind, your spirit? Look for ways to move yourself and your clients forward, regardless of the circumstances.
Growth is where and how we look for it.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew[a] you,
before you were born I set you apart;
I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
6 “Alas, Sovereign Lord,” I said, “I do not know how to speak; I am too young.”
7 But the Lord said to me, “Do not say, ‘I am too young.’ You must go to everyone I send you to and say whatever I command you. 8 Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you,” declares the Lord.
9 Then the Lord reached out his hand and touched my mouth and said to me, “I have put my words in your mouth.
I love this passage on so many levels...God speaks as to how He knows us so perfectly, so intimately, and designed us with a special purpose in mind. He asks us to evangelize-to spread His good news by our actions, our everyday doings, so that our real "Who" shows up on all we do!!
It is great to see how God uses ordinary people; people that are insecure, doubtful, etc. It goes to show that we are all alike and that He uses our humanness for His glory. Even though we might question our worth in His plan for us-He always gives us what we need to move forward. Jeremiah was a teen-I know that teens are so capable, more than they think- of fulfilling God's will to take place.
Go out today, evangelize, let God's wisdom shine out from you!!
In Matthew 2:13-14, we hear how Mary and Joseph had to take Jesus to Egypt for His safety...Mary and Joseph had to trust in God even in dire times. We too are called to trust and believe in His good Word and know that He always provides for us. He not only provides, but graces us with abundance and joy so we may feel His peace!! How will you trust in His goodness today? How can you help others in their faith journey as well?
In today's Psalm, we reflect on love for God...Everyday...not when it's convenient for us, or when we only need something, but everyday-when we want to celebrate too! We hear of His complete greatness and how it is hard for us humans to wrap our heads around it....He is so wonderful, powerful, and almighty, yet tender, compassionate, tender, and merciful. That just magnifies His greatness even more.
In our daily living, we get so busy and have perfect intent to praise Him and to even "remember" Him and tell Him everything that happens. I think we often think that praising Him looks like kneeling down and worshiping a statue, when really praising Him is loving everyone we meet with the concept that they are all special, purposeful, and loved by God. When we serve, are compassionate, and merciful to others....that's worship!! God bless and show His love as you go!!
In today's reading we see that Jesus is questioned by the Pharisees about eating with the tax collector Matthew. We know that Matthew (a sinful tax collector) was very willing to leave everything and follow Christ. Jesus responds to the Pharisees, "Those who are well do not need a physician, but he sick do. Go and learn the meaning of the words, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice.' I didn't come to call the rightious, but the sinners" Here we can really sink our teeth into what Jesus is all about. He came to heal us, restore what was, make right what we have wronged, and leave the whole flock of sheep for the one that strayed. He has so much mercy for us and wants us to be merciful onto each other as well. He came so that we, who are broken and weak, might not only have life, but new and beautiful life created from HIm. Matthew knew he yearned for healing, just like when we are ill, we want to get better. What can we do to feel better today?